hunger unmasked: sensual situations

Ok, I’ll admit it. When I saw the word “Sensual” in Suriel’s book, my mind went in a totally different direction than she intended. (blush) Of course, she definitely had my attention. So, now that I have your attention, let’s move on to our next situational hunger.

Sensual Hunger

Our senses are so powerful that they can trigger what Josie Spinardi calls “fake hunger”. You walk into a movie theater after having a delicious meal at your favorite restaurant. You aren’t remotely hungry. In fact, you might be a tad on the full side. Suddenly you have an urge for a large buttery popcorn and a box of Jr. Mints. Is this physical hunger? No, it’s full-blown sensual hunger. Your senses are triggering your desire to eat.

You’re sitting in the stands cheering on your favorite baseball team. You don’t even have to smell them. You hear someone shout, “hotdogs, hotdogs, get ’em while they’re hot”. Or maybe you’re a “beer and nachos” kind of sporting event gal. The point is, your ears hear the words, your brain pictures it, and suddenly the meatball sub you just had thirty minutes ago is a distant memory. You aren’t physically hungry, but your senses are telling you otherwise.

What if you’re watching TV? A commercial comes on with swirling chocolate saying something about happiness being found in a little foil wrapper and what does your brain tell you it wants? A Hershey’s Kiss. Are you hungry? Heck no. You might not even like Hershey’s Kisses (I don’t anymore), but sensual hunger has been triggered. Where’s the chocolate?!

Because we’ve been confused by sensual hunger in the past, we are now conditioned to respond when it presents itself. Our eyes, ears, and nose can make us believe we are hungry when we are not. Even just being in a location (movie theater, sporting event, amusement park, your sofa) that we associate with sensual hunger can trigger fake hunger. Unfortunately, sometimes the only way to identify fake hunger before you bite into something (and realize it doesn’t taste as good as you imagined it would), is to recognize that you are suddenly craving that particular item. Remember, true hunger doesn’t crave anything in particular.

The goal is to check in with your physical being. If you’re truly hungry, by all means eat. If you aren’t, then you have a choice to make. The choice is always yours if you are following intuitive eating principles. There is no diet that says you must resist sensual hunger. There are no rules to break. All I’m asking you to do is acknowledge it for what it is… situational. If you can do that, you’ll be well on your way to intuitive eating.

Our next stop will be a place we’ve visited before (by another name), but is so important, it should be mentioned in this series as well. Join me tomorrow for a look at “Emotional Hunger“.

hunger unmasked: confusion

Yesterday we talked about the cues our body gives us to let us know when we are hungry. Your cues may be slightly different from mine, but that just means you’ll have to figure out how your body communicates with you. Let this be a time of discovery and try not to stress when you misread your signals… and you will misread them from time to time. It’s important to accept this as part of the learning process.

So, today we’re going to begin to address hunger confusion. I say “begin” because there is simply too much information to put into one post. I really don’t want to overwhelm us, so I’m building in some natural “stops” so we can walk away and think about things in smaller amounts. Plus, this gives me the opportunity to research and focus on one aspect at a time. Afterall, I’m learning too. Let’s get to it, shall we?

I’ll admit, I knew I used food to “numb out” at times, but I had no idea how confused I was about my body’s signals. What causes this confusion? Well, that’s a really good question. It could be any number of things. We will have to be open to discovering what is at the root of the confusion. As you move through this series, and begin asking yourself questions regarding your hunger, I’m sure you’ll discover your personal explanations for your confusions. Some of these explanations may be painful to recount, taking a while to process. Then others may be ridiculously simple and easily overcome by seeing it for what it is.

I mentioned headaches yesterday, so I’ll use them as an example. When I was a kid, I frequently got headaches. Sometimes I would tell my mom, and sometimes I wouldn’t. Usually when I would mention I had a headache, I remember my mom saying, “Oh, you’re probably hungry.” Now, it is very likely that I was hungry those times. I mean, my mom probably knew I hadn’t eaten for several hours (a kid gets busy playing ya know). Unfortunately, to this little kid who didn’t have the full perspective, I translated that to, “If you have a headache, you are hungry”. Kids tend to think in black and white terms. I cannot even begin to fathom the number of non-hunger related eating episodes I’ve probably had as a result of believing my headaches were hunger signals. As it turns out, I can get headaches for several reasons, but generally it isn’t because I’m hungry (unless I’m dieting and totally ignoring my hunger signals).

This is just one example of how we can get our signals crossed. I’ll go more into food related headaches later, but you can see how some of our confusion may go back to when we were kids and didn’t fully understand the reasoning behind what adults were saying to us. Maybe I’m the only kid on the planet who has carried stuff with her as a result of “kid logic”, but I highly doubt it. As you begin to recognize these distorted perspective beliefs, you’ll find some freedom just in the realization of them. Still, it may not be easy to identify in the moment when all you want to do is “fix” the problem (in this case, the headache).

Even if you’ve established that you aren’t physically hungry, you may be confused about what exactly you are experiencing and why it is triggering your desire for food. I’ve read a number of resources that detail out all the possible reasons you might eat other than for hunger, but I think I like the list from The Thin Woman’s Brain, by Dilia Suriel.

Now, before I go on, I will warn that if you struggle heavily with diet mentality* at this point, this is not a book to read. It could be very triggering for someone who hasn’t fully dealt with the diet noise in her head. I found the entire section about food addiction to be somewhat out of place and even a bit tiresome. I didn’t care for the fact that she repeatedly called us “food addicts” and I didn’t like the overall structure of the book.

Anyway, I bought the book for the information about rewiring the brain, which was really very fascinating. In fact, I’m looking for another book on that topic (without all of the food addict stuff). I did like her descriptions of situations that may prompt us to eat when we aren’t hungry. I believe these situations prompt this behavior because we’ve confused situational hunger with physical hunger, and not because we are “food addicts” as she suggests. We just use food instead of some other coping mechanism due to learned helplessness. Of course, feel free to make up your own mind on the matter. I may just be splitting hairs because I do not believe I’m addicted to food.

The bottom line is that we all experience hunger for things other than food and drink. The problem is when we get these hungers confused and try to meet those needs with food. In the coming posts, we are going to take a hard look at what Suriel calls “situational hunger” (Spinardi calls it “non-hunger directed eating”, Roth says “feeding the hungry heart”) so we can identify it and stop confusing it with true physical hunger.

Until then, just keep listening for your body’s true hunger signals. How you react to them isn’t that important right now, just practice recognizing them for the time being.

*If you are still struggling mightily with diet mentality, please address that first before continuing through this series. Having your mind free of the noise will free up brain power to learn hunger identification.